Respect yourself to respect others

The funny part of life is that we always want to see ourselves in a position of power and that we are saluted and respected for being a success. There are very few of us who are content with who we are and are not motivated with the appreciation or accolades of others.

The example that comes to mind is Keanu Reeves. The major star who has some blockbuster hits like Speed, Matrix Trilogy, The Lake House, John Wick Trilogy and so many more but his humility makes him a person of respect.

While he is a famous personality, it makes us easy to relate his human nature and look up to him. But then are we similar or close to what he is. The question can only be answered by ourselves.

Are we really appreciative of who we are? Do we respect ourselves to stand up to the wrongs that are happening in the world or what are we doing to gain basic appreciation of ourselves.

Some basic questions that we need to ask ourselves.

Stand in front of the mirror and see yourselves, do you love who you are? Black, white, brown, green, blue, yellow in whatever form you are. Thin, fat, well built, any size or description. Long hair, short hair, crew cut or any colour of hair that you have? or are you portraying yourself to impress another person.

Then ask yourself, is there something that can make you feel better for yourself? Having a healthy lifestyle, a better haircut, a better wardrobe? anything that would make you happy. Not another person when they see you. Even if you were wearing the most hideous clothing, but if that were to make you happy then do it.

Don’t do the mistake I did, I lived to impress the people I was associated with for a very long time. Almost my whole life and in the end, the only realization I had was that i was the most happy when I did things for myself. The day I realized it the world around me started to change and things went from good to great. Even better, I started to improve to such an extent, I was happy!

Then came the appreciations and the accolades, but it did not affect me because the hard work that went into the appreciation was unknown to the others and that was for me to appreciate and acknowledge. It gave me the realization that the world likes to see great things, but very few motivate others to be the greatness that they are worthy of.

You may say, “I had a bad childhood”. “I come from a broken family”. “My love left me/dumped me” and many more tragedies that we all went through. Unfortunately, we cannot change the past, what we can change is the present so that our future is better. While the past will always be a memory, the future is a better hope.

The change has to come today and make the difference now. Do not wait for a blue moon to make your start. This is the moment to look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself, “Do I love you?” This is the start. The steps that follow will be easier when you make the start. Do not worry of the time line for improvement, just focus on the first step and then think of the second step and then the third. Each step will help you realise something better and you will repeat the process when you see the beauty in yourself.

Remember, you cannot walk in the rain if you are not wearing a raincoat. If you believe in yourself, the raincoat will stop you from enjoying the rains and dance the way you loved yourself and when you do this, you will start to respect the next person, being or animal around you much more.

Start today, it is now that you will start to find yourself and you will see the goodness in you. If you need help to start off, send us an email at query@wisdomthree.com or send a whatsapp message to +91-9820811448. We will reach out to you to schedule a plan to benefit you and support you in the journey.

~Written by Roshan Dsouza, Life Consultant and Counselling Psychologist

Roshan terms himself as a life consultant because he has the experience of being an employee, running a business and counselling. Using the statistical ability and the mental prowess of a leader he helps guide business houses into profit-making decisions by harnessing their instincts with the right data. This gives them an edge into calling a bluff or making the best deal.

Also, a counsellor he works with clients with disorders and helps them find their purpose, thereby solving the problem. An avid body language study, he specializes in peoples reactions without the need for them to speak, still working on reading poker players